How many times have you heard someone say, “if only I had more money, a bigger house, a better spouse, drove a newer car, was thinner, was richer, and so on?
Part of happiness and fulfillment is not having what you want but wanting what you have. Look around. You have a lot to be thankful for. Even if circumstances aren’t great right now, I know you can think of something.
If you’re going through a tough time right now, take a minute, go get a pad of paper and a pen and then start making a list of all you have to be thankful for. I’ve suggested this exercise many times before because it’s effective and it works in filling your mind with great things that you already have. Include the people in your life. Make sure you focus on the relationships you presently have because they are largely responsible for how fulfilling and happy your life is.
In fact, according to a Harvard study of 724 participants from varying walks of life over the course of 75 years — they uncovered the key to long-term happiness and fulfillment and the answer is, good relationships. And it’s not about knowing a lot of people, but instead about the quality of time you spend developing a few good, meaningful, relationships. A key is to create “micro” experiences with the people you care about. This in-turn creates the memories that help take us through the difficult times in life. The quality of our life — emotionally, physically, and mentally — is directly proportional to the quality of our relationships.
What relationship are you thankful for that might need some attention right now? Do something to enhance that relationship and you’ll feel happier and more fulfilled, and you’ll be healthier for it to.